IMPACT ON THE PHYSICAL HEALTH OF WOMEN IN POLYGAMOUS MARRIAGE
Article 9 based on the data published by BMMA in ‘Breaking the Silence’ https://notionpress.com/in/read/breaking-the-silence-1410178808-1410178808
Let’s look at the impact on the physical health of
the first wife. She starts to suffer from blood pressure [40%], loss of sleep
[45%], migraine [34%], body pain [27%] and joint pains [21%], menstrual issues
[15%]. Although for more clarity there is a separate article to assess mental
health impact, just the physical impact is overwhelming. Most of these ailments
require regular medication and doctor visits. The ailments do not give her
enough bandwidth to take up and job and earn, to look after small children and
manage all the stress. All the above ailments are debilitating, giving very
limited physical strength to go on with life. We all know what happens to us
when we have not slept well or when migraine hits us or when there is a
nagging, chronic body ache. All this because a man thinks it is his right to
marry more than one woman.
The data reveals a significant disparity in
physical health outcomes between first and second wives,
indicating that the emotional and social
consequences of polygamy translate into tangible health impacts,
especially for the first wife.
- First wives are consistently more affected
across every health indicator, suggesting that emotional distress,
insecurity, and neglect following the husband’s second marriage have
direct physiological consequences.
- The high rates of hypertension (35.9%) and
sleep loss (45.3%) strongly imply psychosomatic stress linked to marital
strain.
- In contrast, second wives report comparatively
better health, likely due to greater attention, emotional validation, and
social status during the early years of their marriage.
- The gap in reported “no health issues” (20% vs
51%) highlights a stark contrast in overall well-being.
Polygamous marriage exerts a disproportionate toll
on the physical health of first wives, reflecting how emotional deprivation and
competition translate into chronic illness. The findings indicate that polygamy
not only destabilizes marital harmony but also undermines women’s physical
well-being, creating a cycle of stress, illness, and medical dependency. The
gap is compelling. 12 % of first wife compared to 5% of second wife have
diabetes. Almost 15% of first wife compared to 8% of second wife have menstrual
issues. 27% of first wife compared to 9% of second have body aches and pains.
The numbers clearly indicate that the first wife suffers more.
When we checked with
the action that women take to look after themselves. A large portion of women
[32%]. Almost equally high (31.9%) visited government or charitable health
centres, showing reliance on affordable care. 17.8% could not afford treatment,
highlighting economic barriers. 16.8% used home remedies, and 14.9% engaged in
physical activity to manage stress, indicating informal/self-care methods are
common. Only 2.1% reported doing regular exercise, suggesting low preventive
health behavior. 10% did not face any health issues, possibly due to youth,
lifestyle, or underreporting. Overall, the data suggests that economic factors,
access to care, and self-managed solutions play a major role in how individuals
deal with health, while preventive behaviors like exercise remain minimal.
The shock and humiliation of the
second marriage has an immediate physical impact. The body goes into a shock
followed by the pain of being betrayed. Anger is predominant, fear is
inevitable and a long term experience of these emotions can have long standing
damage on the body. Constant headaches, sleep disturbances, fatigue, body
aches, joint pains then feed into more stress and the loop continues. The body keeps accumulating the
pain which keeps getting added as more stress and crisis unfold. Many years of
single handedly shouldering the responsibilities of raising children, managing
home and finances takes it’s toll on the body with entrenched long term chronic
illnesses.
If the second marriage has happened after a long
gap then the second wife is also much younger and hence less ailments. She is
also not yet burdened with marriage conflicts, child birth and other related
stressors. First wife being already older may have already been experiencing
various ailments.
Physical ailments begin with the mind anyway.
Because she suffers emotionally, her body stores all the mental aches and
pains. Feeling replaced, unimportant and dispensable affects her self-worth and
dignity and that has a huge impact on her body.
It is not to say that the second wives do not suffer
at all. The numbers do show that she too suffers. But a large part of the
impact is definitely on the first wife.
